Verbal communication. The highest leverage skill one can have, and yet the most overlooked. People communicate every single day, so why practice it? I talk to people every single day, and I can tell they are unpracticed, anxious, and unsocialized.
An Overview
Below are a handful of sections relevant to this guide, give them a read.
Language Should Last
Do not say that a watch is a “flex”, instead mention that the watch is beautiful. Beautiful language lasts for hundreds of years, and the right people notice it.
Language is subject to context of course, but be careful of using slang in contexts that do not warrant it. Slang has an underlying tone of wanting to fit in with the common people, if you are uncommon then why force it? Be a put together individual, that is more attractive than fitting in. Slang does not last for hundreds of years, it’s true meaning becomes disfigured.
Common Phrases, Say Them Well
You greet people with “Good morning” and “Good afternoon” every single day, why would you decide to not practice them? An impressive greeting and an impressive exit can change your social skills entirely. It seems that lower class people always disagree with the idea of practicing social skills, sold on the lie that everything should be natural.
You end a phone call every single day, why not have a common exit? “Thank you for your call today.” “Thank you kindly.”. Every single call between business associates should consistently have one ending.
Take some phrases out of this guide, write them on a flashcard, and practice them daily. You will see the ease of your life once you have consistent openers, exits, and other phrases to easily turn to.
Separate Communication And Beliefs
Just because you’re disagreeable as a person doesn’t mean that you need to constantly signal this trait through your communication. Effective communication does not directly mean effective internal trait signaling. In a machiavellian way, why would you want to fully expose yourself to potential enemies? Keep yourself warm, charming, and welcoming. Save the hidden daggers for those who you learn deserve them.
Greetings
Exits
Disagreements
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Want to showcase thoughts that may be contrary to your conversation partner? Opt for showcasing ideas in a non threatening way. Remember that you aren’t static either, and it’s possible this person know something that you don’t about this topic that could change your mind. Harsh language such as “And I could never be convinced otherwise” is anti seductive, anti relationship, and anti friend. Be firm.
Want to exit a conversation? Such as backing off from a topic you’re not comfortable with. Try the following: